Stop Focusing on What You Can’t Control
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There are a lot of circumstances in life that our out of our control. We don’t get to choose what country we’re born in, our nationality, how much money our parents make, and countless other factors that make up where we are today.
One of my favorite parts of personal finance is that it’s one of the rare areas of life where we do have some control. We get to choose how we spend our money. Of course some portion of our income goes to pay for necessities, but we still get to make choices all throughout those purchases. Some people spend everything they make, while others save some. Some people have a lot of extra money that they get to use in other ways, while some people just have enough to cover the basics.
Stop Focusing on What You Can’t Control
My overall point is that we need to stop focusing on what we can’t control. Hard circumstances are going to happen, but we get to choose how to react to them. A lot of what effects our behavior is tied to our attitude.
Stop focusing on political candidates, the news, or how much the stock market is going up or down. While it’s important to be informed citizens, there’s a big difference between being informed and letting these circumstances rule over your life.
Ultimately, you’ll be much happier if you keep your focus on what you can control. Focus on instilling good habits in your day to day life. Focus on eating healthy food and working out. Focus on cutting out unnecessary spending and paying off your debt. Focus on increasing your savings rate as much as possible. Focus on finding solutions to problems instead of jumping to excuses for why the problems happened.
You can’t control what the number on the scale will say, but you can control what you eat and how many calories you burn. You can’t control whether the stock market goes up or down, but you can control how often you check your investments and how you react to it. You can’t control that you need to pay for certain necessities, but you can control how much of your leftover income you put into savings (if you have any leftover income).
You can’t control how intelligent you are, but you can control how much you learn. You can control your effort and how hard you work. You can control whether you take an online class or pickup a side job instead of spending all your free hours watching TV or going out drinking at bars.
Putting it Into Practice
For my own situation, I can’t control that my wife and I have thousands of dollars of student loan debt to pay off, but I can control how much of our money we put towards getting them paid off as quickly as possible. I can also control my mindset about having them, and use them as a catalyst to instill positive financial habits that will benefit our future. The better off you become financially, the more options are opened up to you.
I don’t mean for this post to sound preachy, a lot of the times these principles are easier said than done. Unfortunately, some people are dealt a more difficult hand than others. The point is for it to be a reminder that there are a lot of situations in life that are out of our control. However, instead of dwelling on these situations, we should turn our focus back onto what we CAN control.
We can’t control our circumstances, but we can control how we react to those circumstances. We can choose to think optimistically even in the midst of the dark times. If the deck seems stacked against you, let that be even more fuel to your fire to prove the doubters wrong. Desire better for yourself, and do whatever it takes to continue to make progress. It may not be easy, but it will be worthwhile and it will help us live a more joyful life.
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